The Bachelor. . . After the Rose.. . . (or should we say: After the Fallout?)

And we wonder why there's a 50% divorce rate in America? PLU-EASE!

I wasn't going to even bother posting this (since there are already a plethora of blogs about it) but, I thought, ya know, since I've been married 31+ years--I just MIGHT have something to say about this subject!

Truth be told--I've never even watched this show before. . . I mean the whole concept is just pure entertainment fantasy. Lining up 25 (desperate) women to make a pitch to meet and marry some guy at the end of 8 weeks of taping is a pretty far fetched concept, if you are claiming this is 'REALITY TV'. . .

But wait! This is America--the land of free choice--and actually some people take more time picking out curtain patterns than they do picking out a mate. . . so the concept is NOT beyond reason. (and the contestants themselves SWEAR their feelings are 'real' and 'honest') Oh, PLEASE!

Remember the other ideas for reality shows? 'Temptation Island'? Yeah, that was a GREAT idea--getting couples together, and then separating them and tempting them to be unfaithful to see if they would remain true to their partners. Boy! That show lasted all of one season--along with this beaut: 'Who wants to marry a millionaire?' Again, what a flop--since the 'chosen' one ended up NOT marrying the millionaire dweeb after all. . .

Back to THIS show. . . a friend caught me up to speed and BEGGED that I watch it, just for fun--so I watched the last few episodes right up to the finale where our dashing bachelor proposed to Melissa. . . then 6 weeks later broke up with her on national TV to go for Molly (the one he dumped previously on the show)

Here is the 'Bachelor' Jason Mesnick, a single dad from Seattle:



Can he even be called a 'bachelor'??? I mean he WAS married before and fathered a son. Why not call him a divorced man, or single dad? According to the dictionary the word 'bachelor' means:

1. An unmarried man.

2. A male animal that does not mate during the breeding season, especially a young male fur seal kept from the breeding territory by older males.

3. A person who holds a first degree from a university or college.

4. A young knight in the service of another knight in feudal times.

OK--he is CURRENTLY unmarried. But, face it, the guy HAD been married before. AND I'm certain that he mated during the breeding season, because, after all--he fathered a son. So he broke that one! As for the other two definitions. . . well, you can look up his stats on that yourselves. . .

And here are the two women he duped dumped--Melissa and Molly:



The first girl (Melissa) he proposed to on the show, dumping the second girl (Molly) in the process.

But wait! He changes his mind! And so 6 weeks later he comes BACK on the show to dump his fiance (Melissa) for the first dumpee (Molly)

I'm sure, if he kept a Rolodex handy with some of the former contestants names and numbers, he'll be dumping Molly pretty soon for Jillian, (and begging her not to become the new Bachelorette) or one of the others.

The guy has an attention span the size of a gnat--and from what I saw he had mostly a grand 'make-out fest' with the women before he finally settled down to hopefully score a bit more with one (or two) of them. . .

The sad thing is that this guy actually thinks that love is a FEELING that you can fall in and out of--sort of like walking through a revolving door. (great concept to teach his young son) He claims he was being honest and true with his FEELINGS and was sorry he had to hurt people along the way--but he had to be true to himself.

He says he was really in love with Melissa at the time he proposed to her--but weeks later his feelings were not the same. (Hmmmm. . . wonder why he's divorced?) Now he says he's in love with Molly--(and what's the guarantee that those 'feelings' will last?)

What surprises me is the WOMEN!! For goodness sake, girls, get a GRIP! How could Molly, who thought that Jason really loved her and would propose to her, get DUMPED for another woman--and then weeks later watch this guy dump THAT woman on TV--then turn around in mere minutes and ask for another shot with her?

And she TOOK it!!!! Because of course, that would NEVER happen to her. (even though, it already did once!) Are folks really this shallow/desperate/crazy? Or is this all scripted and folks really crave that 15 minutes of fame???

Either way. . . the show is very telling about what is really wrong with society today.

And I'm told that in 13 Seasons of this show--only 1 couple actually married and stayed together (so far) So that tells me that going on the show only gives you a 1 in 13 shot (for now) of making it as a happy couple. Whereas, if you tried it on your own--you at least have a 50/50 shot in this country.

But then again, if you did find someone on your own--you risk not getting a bunch of roses, and have less of a chance of going on a date with 4 other girls as well as your guy--and watching him make out with all of them before he puts his lips on yours. Not to mention the fact that you get to go to exotic locations and drink and fight with the other women and then talk about them behind their back. PLUS you get to come and hash out your hurt and disappointments on national TV with the handsome host. . . AND you might get noticed for 15 minutes!!!

It's something to consider. . .

Oh--and hey! This is pretty funny and takes about a minute. Jimmy Kimmel grills Jason after the show's wrap up this week: (Gotta love that Jimmy!)